What is Love?

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”  -Thomas Merton What is love? We like to think that a great love is the place where two people are able…

The Ugly Truth

“Honesty and transparency make you vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway.” -Mother Teresa When you’re going through recovery it can be tempting to want to put your best foot forward and hide the ugly as you try to repair relationships and rebuild your life. You want to prove to your loved ones that you are a changed…

Fight Fair

Hitting below the belt, back stabbing, belittlement, the stink eye, throat punching, character assassination, and the good old fashioned slap in the face. I think we can all agree that none of these go-to standards are what we would call, “fighting fair”. There is nothing more damaging to a relationship than hurtful words said during an argument that…

Love on Purpose

“Living with intention means saying no to the things that aren’t important to us so that we can say yes to what matters most.”  When it comes to love, being intentional is often overlooked. We usually focus on is the passionate and emotional side, yet being purposeful in relationships is one of the most important…

Are You Listening?

Many relationship problems are rooted in a communication breakdown. These can be as simple as not hearing what the other person is saying, because we get caught up in our own perspectives. -Sumesh Nair A common complaint between couples is that they don’t feel understood, because their partner doesn’t listen. And when a partner doesn’t listen,…

You, Not Them

Being with someone over a significant period of time shapes you in ways that you often can’t see. There are always things to learn, especially about who you are and how you give and receive love. Love can often become confusing in relationships when we can’t separate what we want from our partner and what we need from ourselves….

3 Ways to Improve Communication In Your Relationship

“If you need something from somebody always give that person a way to hand it to you.”  ― Sue Monk Kidd, The Secret Life of Bees When talking about positive affirmations in relationships, I think it’s important to learn how to communicate all this positivity in an effective way. Skilled listening allows you to receive information and understand what your partner is…

Mastering Body Language

  Never ask a woman if you may kiss her. Instead, learn to read body language. Neil Strauss  Whether they’re shy, playing it cool, or just afraid of scaring you off, a person isn’t always going to tell you how they’re feeling or if they’re interested. Knowing how to read body language could give you the…

Be a Relationship Superhero

“It’s not an accidental entanglement; it’s an intentional knot. Love belongs with belonging.” Brene Brown Falling in love is different than staying in love. Falling in love happens, but staying in love is intentional. It requires you to go above and beyond your natural feelings of excitement and become a relationship superhero. How? Here’s 3…

The Formula For a Good Relationship – According to Science

“They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” — Carl W. Buechner Being in a committed relationship is no small accomplishment. We’ve all heard statistics about the divorce rate that make it sound like we’re bad with relationships as a society, but we think it means that people are no longer…